Update (2016): Anyone reading this blog for the first time and wondering how I managed the baby years, or looking for tips or tricks that worked for me, the best blogs postings are from 2010-2013. Now that my children are older, ages 6 and 3, they are more independent and I no longer face many physical challenges in caring for them.
When my husband and I started talking about starting a family 2 years ago I wanted to do some research. I, naturally did a web search for disabled mothers raising children, and to my disappointment I didn’t come up with much. I wanted to learn about what it was like to go through pregnancy for someone with a physical disability. I wanted to learn about adaptive equipment out there that would make it easier for me to care for a baby. I wanted to hear about other disabled mothers’ tricks that made things easier for them. I wanted to know that someone else went through this and succeeded. I wanted personal stories.
I did find a wonderful, very helpful, encouraging book on pregnancy, “The Disabled Women’s Guide to Pregnancy and Birth” by Judith Rodgers. Also, Through the Looking Glass, is an organization for parents with disabilities. I also bought a book written by a woman whom had adopted a baby. Both her and her husband were disabled, but after my husband read it first he suggested I not read it.
I also found a blog written by a disabled woman going through her first trimester of pregnancy but it was old and was never kept up after that. I was disappointed, so I got this idea in my head that I should start a blog. That I could share my experience about pregnancy, labor and delivery, and caring for a baby as a disabled mother. I could share my challenges, my tricks, my experiences, hoping to encourage the next disabled person out there wanting to start a family.
I should have started this earlier, like when I first got pregnant, because there has been many times where I have said to myself, “I should blog about this.” But I will try to go back and capture those moments and share them.
I was reluctant about starting a blog, for many reasons that maybe some day I’ll blog about... or maybe not, mainly because I’m not a “look at me. look at me” type of person. I enjoy reading other peoples’ blogs from time to time if they are shared with me, but I don’t necessarily want my life out on display for the world to read about. So what this blog is not: It is not a blog about my daily life (my job, what I ate for dinner, the jerk who cut me off in traffic); it is not a blog about motherhood (the lack of sleep, the loads of laundry, cleaning spit up off my clothes); it is not a blog about my baby (Kiana took her first step today, Kiana is teething, Kiana is feeding herself) ; it is not a blog about being a wife; it is not a blog about my opinion, or lack there of, of the current political news; it is not my rant on this or that. (Isn’t that is what Facebook is for?) Or at least I’m going to try not to make it about all of this. Instead, I want to try to keep this blog about the uniqueness of my situation as it relates to all of these. It will be about the obstacles I face that an able-bodied person might not face when raising a child and how I overcame those obstacles.
So if anyone finds this blog to read I hope you would follow me in this journey of raising a child as a physically disabled mother. If not, I guess I’ll just have an online journal of memories.